Whether you’re a bride for the first time, the 2nd or even for the 3rd time, the feeling is always the same. That heady rush of excitement you just can’t contain, that smile from ear to ear, and yes, even the anxiety. Looking forward to the wedding day always make every bride happy, but looking at all the things that have to be done in between is another matter altogether. If you’re one of those who feel like they don’t know where to go and what to do before their wedding day comes, here’re some tips for you.
1. Keep calm and don’t forget to breathe.
Yes, you’re excited. You want to jump up and down. You want to shout it from the rooftops that you’re getting married. BUT, you do have some planning to do. When that reality hits home, you’re going to start feeling anxious. When you feel anxiety beginning to take over, stop, take a breather and calm yourself down.
Go to a place you consider peaceful – a place where you can think. What do you do here? Start counting the time that you have between the engagement and the actual wedding day. How many months, or for some, weeks do you have? This isn’t to get you panicking even more. Knowing how much time you have allows you to arrange your priorities a lot better.
2. Take things one at a time.
If brides could do all things at once, then they will, but unfortunately, they can’t. While it’s possible to book several wedding suppliers in one day, it’s not possible for you to consider all the necessary suppliers in just one day. Creating shortcuts just because you think you’re out of time will mean settling for less for what could otherwise be a great wedding day.
Yes, there are many things that need to be done, but regardless of whether you have one year or just two weeks to prepare, you do have the time. Take things one at a time.
3. You have options!
It has already been mentioned that taking shortcuts are not a good way to plan for a marriage. Booking one supplier and not considering all others is not a good move. You have options. It’s important to remember that.
Of course, it isn’t wise to consider all the options out there. Strike a good balance and limit your choices to three at most and pick from those. Which suppliers have the best feedback, are within your budget, and can envision the same wedding as you or even better?
4. Unload! You’re not alone.
What most brides fail to consider is the help that is readily available for them. They think that since it’s their wedding day, it’s their duty to handle all the little details. It is not. This is a common misconception that needs to be broken!
There are plenty of special people in your life who want in on your wedding; friends and relatives who want to help in what little way they can. Let them! Unload yourself of what you can and let the others do it for you.
There are even luckier brides who have grooms that are more than ready to take on some of the burden of planning. Let them! You’ll end up being grateful for what he does.
5. Remember, it’s YOUR day.
Asking the help of someone else, be it a family member or a wedding planning, what’s important is that YOUR wedding dreams come true, not theirs. Remember, this is your wedding. It’s what you want that should get done.
This is easier to do when you’re dealing with a planner, since they are inclined to what you want for your wedding. Dealing with family is a little different and this is where strains can be experienced. However, don’t stress it out too much. Learn to compromise and meet their needs as much as possible, without ultimately sacrificing your dream wedding.
6. Relish everything!
What’s a wedding if you’re not happy? Relish the whole experience of being a bride. You only get to have that experience for once in your life. The planning may be a little hectic and more so the wedding day, but try hard to fight the stress that’s threatening to surface. Push it back and choose to enjoy the whole thing.