Everything can be perfect and feel so surreal when you walk down that aisle and meet your groom for the first time… Until, it’s time to say the vows, that is. Are you getting married any day now? Have you written your vows yet or still waiting for some inspiration to drop from the sky and into your head? Well, here are a few tips that can help you put pen to paper and let the magic words run.
- Check with your officiating pastor or priest if he allows personalized vows.
It’ll be really useless for you to go to all the trouble writing your personal vows when your officiating minister won’t allow it. So, before you go to all that trouble, remember to ask first.
- Start early.
Yes, there may be many stories of how many brides and grooms have written their vows on the day and still nailed it, it doesn’t work for all. With all that excitement on the day, it’s doubtful you’ll get a good amount of time to still be able to write your vows.
The latest you should make your vows is a month before your wedding date. Why that long? Because you get to have a clear head and plenty of time to write and rewrite your vows. You also have plenty of time to research and ask people to help you write out what you want to say to your bride or groom on the big day.
- Don’t hesitate to research.
It’s not like you’re going to be plagiarizing. Some people just have a harder time than others put into words what they have already thought of in their minds to say. What can help you is research. Search the net for some inspiration. You can even watch a movie or read a book! Or, you can even ask a friend who’s good with words or who has already been married to help you write your vows.
- Make it your own.
At the end of the day, even with all those helpful research, it’s still best to personalize your vows. Make your vows your own in a way that it perfectly describes what you feel for your bride or groom. Or in a way that perfectly describes your situation or is suited to your partner.
It’s not going to help, no matter how great the words spoken may be, if to your partner it feels like you’re talking about another man, woman, or situation all together.
- It’s not a poetry contest!
What matters most to your bride or groom is not how great you say it or how beautiful the words may be, but how much your vow means to you and to your partner. There’s no contest here, folks. Don’t worry about the other people who will be hearing your vows and possibly making fun of you for it.
What really matters most at the end of the day, is how you lived up to your vow. It’s only going to be said once, but you have a lifetime with your spouse to put it into action. That, to many people, is the best kind of vow.